Love is....it keeps no record of wrongs. 1 Corinthians 13:5b
True love in its purest form is the most difficult. The one most people have a hard time with is keeping no record of wrongs. When we received Jesus and his justification, we become blessed. How are we blessed? Romans 4:7 and 8 tells us "Blessed are they whosed transgressions are forgiven, whose sins are covered. Blessed is the man whose sin the Lord will never count against him. This is true forgiveness. When we ask for forgiveness, God no longer keeps a record of our wrongs. This is what gives us peace in our relationship with God and allows for us to be reconciled in our relationship with him.
When we do not forgive and let go of the wrong that others have done to us, we will not be able to have relationship with them. Or if we do have a relationship it is limited. Limited by the walls that we put up to protect us from being hurt again. When another betrays your trust, it is difficult. However, when we think about how God forgave us for our betrayals how can we not be the same?
When betrayal and unfaithfulness occurs it hurts. It is a wound that takes time to heal. The only person who can heal is God. The Holy Spirit is our comforter and desires to comfort us in our time of need. However, unforgiveness towards others can keep us from walking in God's healing. The Holy Spirit cannot comfort us and bring healing when we chose not to forgive. Yes, what they did hurt and wrong, I am not disregarding that you have been hurt. Some will never say sorry, others don't even realize what they did hurt and still there are those who don't care. I am not justifying their sin, but what I can say is that I am sorry.
God's love is the only thing that can cast out fear. Fear of being hurt and betrayed again. Fear of what might happen if you trust again. We can trust him because he promises us that he will heal us and bring comfort to us. When we received Jesus as our Lord and Savior, our destiny changed. We became children of God. We no longer were part of the darkness, but now were translated into his glorious light. He took out the heart of stone and gave us one of flesh. We now had a new life. We became one set apart that would be holy as he is holy. We are part of a peculiar people, chosen to be vessels of honor and glory for him. He has given us power through the Holy Spirit to be set free from the power of unforgiveness.
He wants to set us free and give us the ability to love again. He tells us in Romans 5 that through our sufferings we can rejoice "because we know that sufferings produces perseverance, perseverance character, and character, hope. And hope will not disappoint us because God has poured out his love into our hearts by the Holy Spirit, whom he has given us." God knows that is we will trust him in our sufferings and surrender to him those who have hurt us that the love of God will be poured into our hearts and we will have this sure hope in him.
Hurt people, hurt people. God tells us in Ephesians 6 that "for our struggle is not against flesh and blood, but against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realms." People around you are hurt, some are dying from lack of knowledge, while others are in deception. When you see people as God sees them, you will see they are like sheep without a shephard. It is God's goodness that leads others to repentance and it takes the love of God to heal them. God uses his vessels, you and me, to bring the love of God to them.
I am not saying that forgiveness is easy. Today if we could see the people who hurt us as Christ sees them, we too like Christ would be moved to love them and draw them to repentance so that their sins would be remembered no more. We would keep no records of wrongs. May God bless you today with the ability to love and keep no records of wrongs.